Monday, 27 August 2007

Funeral speech

We were offered a few short minutes to deliver some words during the funeral so I put together and presented this.

Our dearest Gwen

As we say our farewells
we remember the love and the selfless devotion you showed to your family and to your friends.

As a mother you've were an inspiration, a shining light of guidance,
who encouraged your children to pursue their dreams and aspirations.
As a companion and friend you were a comfort, with an openhearted enthusiasm for life, and generosity of spirit.

Gwen, ever prepared with a word of sage common sense.
Gwen, the socialite, an astute judge of character, for whom the warmth and companionship of those around meant everything.
Slow to anger, quick to empathize, your loyalty and compassion reached out to friends and family alike.
Gwen, bursting with spirit, sometimes eccentric, sometimes even scatterbrained
we loved you for it all.

You were a rock of support to all who have known you, the anchor of our family.
As you begin a new journey, the legacy of your life remains through your children and grandchildren, a precious legacy that will be preserved in our memories.

Spiritually you were always by the side of your loved ones no matter what. And still you remain by our sides now.

Thank you Gwen, for your grace. Thank you for your understanding, and for your insight.

Above all, thank you for your love.

6 comments:

June said...

A beautiful tribute John. She sounds such a lovely person, I wish I had known her.
Take care of yourself, and give yourself time and permission to grieve.
My best to you and your family,
June

Nancy Bea said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Your eulogy for your mother was very beautiful and touching. It reminded me of a haiku written by a fellow artist/blogger (I know only her blog name which is "Get Zen")

COMFORT

The life of one
blends into the hearts of many
never forgotten

Robert said...

I'm sorry I was unable to raise you on your mobile when you were in England. I was very sorry to hear of the loss of your Mum; you've written a touching eulogy for her. Don't fret about not having tears - these things come if and when it's time for them, and everyone takes every loss differently.

I hope your Dad, Suzanne, and Paul are coping.

When you first emailed me I was going to send you a piece by Kipling, but held back because it seemed too early. Your Mum will always be by you, either in spirit or in memory.

Bob


Mother o’ Mine
Rudyard Kipling (1891)

If I were hanged on the highest hill,
Mother o’ mine, O mother o’ mine
I know whose love would follow me still,
Mother o’ mine, O mother o’ mine

If I were drowned in the deepest sea,
Mother o’ mine, O mother o’ mine
I know whose tears would come down to me,
Mother o’ mine, O mother o’ mine

If I were damned of body and soul,
I know whose prayers would make me whole,
Mother o’ mine, 0 mother o’ mine!

John said...

Thank you everyone
I'm sorry I didn't call you back too Bob, really. It was a heavy, confused time for the family as I know you understand.

Back in Japan now I'm gradually catching up with work and pushing on with life, although admittedly with a lot of procrastination. It's still hard to get enthusiastic about much, everything I do now seems at the moment to be seen in context with the loss of my mother and the loneliness of my father. I have this nagging feeling I should be in the UK rather than here in Japan, even though my family and business are all rooted here now. I'm sure these feelings will subside eventually.

Annie Donwerth Chikamatsu said...

A lovely tribute. Yes, those who pass before us are still with us in spirit. I know it my heart.

richard jones said...

That was a moving tribute, I'm sorry for your loss.

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